How Do I Make Sure She Doesn't Leave Me?

How Do I Make Sure She Doesn't Leave Me? by Erik J. Michaels

Guys, it comes as no news to you that we tend to make mistakes, and often these mistakes can threaten our relationships. When you've screwed up enough times that she's looking for the door, desperation can really set in and you'll do almost anything to make her not want to leave you. Well, I think I can help you.

Figuring out how to get your girl to not leave you can hinge a lot on what's making her want to leave in the first place. Figuring out what you're doing wrong can be a vital first step in keeping her from dumping you. Some of you reading this will know what went wrong, but for those who don't there follows a small list of questions you can ask yourself.

-Did I violate her personal definition of unfaithfulness? -Did I say something stupid or make her feel bad about herself because of something I said? -Have I been making enough time in my life to spend with her, and make her feel loved? -Did I forget her birthday/our anniversary/Valentine's Day/Christmas? -Have I been supportive enough of her emotions and feelings? -Have I respected her opinion in the relationship and treated her as an equal?

These are just a few things that can contribute to a problem, some more "deadly" than others, but really these are if anything just a part of what truly makes a woman want to leave her man. More often than not, it's a collection or series of these problems over a long period of time that just make her fed up with you and desiring a way out.

There are "little things" and "big things." Little things are like forgetting a holiday or saying something really stupid and hurtful at just the wrong time,and by calling them "little" things I don't want you to make the mistake of thinking that they're excusable and "no big deal." They hurt too, but they're just easier to fix than the "big" things.

Cheating on her, not supporting her emotions or helping her to feel loved and like she's important to you, and not spending enough time with her are all things that can be considered "big." These can hit hard in a relationship, and getting through one that's threatened by these can require a lot of sacrifice and change.

To heal a relationship caused by little things, it's important to first off completely stop doing them. Don't add to your troubles by extending them. Second, apologize! That's kind of a no-brainer, but a lot of guys get angry enough to feel like they don't have to apologize, and that sort of stubborn refusal is just paving the path she'll use to walk away. And of course remember that when you apologize, it's important to MEAN it!

Remember that while the little things are generally not relationshipkillers when taken one at a time, repeating them over a long period of time or doing a bunch at once can really mess things up for you and your girlfriend, so you don't get a free pass with these. Be careful.

The really deadly things are the larger problems, the biggest and most common being cheating on one another,and sadly it's traditionally the guys' role to be the idiots doing the cheating. There's really no excuse for being unfaithful, and that really goes for more than just having sex with another woman. There are girls who consider inappropriate looks to be cheating, and while your girl may not be one of them there's really no reason to push it. You don't need other women, you've got the best one right?

Most of the problems in a relationship can be avoided by simply paying attention to your girlfriend and spending time with her, LISTENING. Doing this will clue you in to how she's feeling about herself, you, and the two of you. This can alert you to potential problems and help to avoid them anyways, as a lot of them stem from lack of communication or time spent with one another.

If there's a serious problem going on right now with your relationship, and your girlfriend is looking for the door in spite of your desire to make it work, it's critical to do what you have to in order to make her happy and make her stay. Sacrifice and compromise are the names of the game, and if that's what it takes to make her feel cared-about, that's what you need to do,and is that really so unfair?

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